I spent the summer of 2012 leading STM with an organization called YouthWorks! During our week of training at the beginning of the summer we discussed the importance of abandoning the “hero complex” mentality. The following thoughts are taken directly from my journal entry on 05/25/2012:
“That “Hero Complex” that surrounds you, that you carry with you, you must lose it. You want to be the one who solves everyone’s problems. You want to be there for everyone at every time. You think you have everything figured out and have an answer for everything. You assume things about people and assume everyone is the same as you. You believe that everyone should be living a life like yours. But you are so WRONG!! You do not solve people’s problems, JESUS solves their problems. While your actions of helping may appear pure underneath lies pride and recognition. You want to be in the spotlight and praised for your problem solving. But thinking only you can solve the problems demeans your friends. They CAN run their own lives, you do not need to hold their hand through it all. The best way you can help someone is to empower them. And help them to focus on Jesus. Lead them to prayer. Turn their problems and your problems over to the Father who loves and cares for us. You have your own problems to worry about. You can still help others but be a vessel for Jesus to work through.”
To sum things up: point towards the Cross and Duck! I don’t remember where I heard that saying but I really like it. The idea of pointing people in the right direction, but then ducking so that He can save that person and receive all of the glory that He deserves! Whether it’s encouraging a fellow believer to turn their eyes towards God and pray for guidance, or explaining your faith to a nonbeliever, it’s important to remember that only Jesus can truly work within someone’s life and lead them towards salvation and a relationship with Him.